Looks - Boys, if you don't look like calvin klein models, don't expect us to look like victoria secrets angels

Looks!!! Where do we start on this dating minefield?? Men are normally quite simple they prefer Brunettes?? why might I ask from a very blonde writer? Now i'm not saying that Blondes have more fun as I know a great many Brunettes that are heaps of fun what I'm saying is why make that preference why not meet both Blondes and Brunettes and then make up your mind not from just looks.

and as these images show how would you know blonde or brunette as us women are constantly changing our looks all the time, sometimes seasonally as my husband likes to put it. You wouldn't know that the brunette you are taking on a date isn't really a blonde and don't go all crude on me (because on this blog we take our dating seriously and that doesn't happen on the first date and haven't you ever heard of a brazillian??).

As for you ladies, your dates aren't going to look like the Diet Coke man although you can image it if you so choose. You need to lower the type of man you want to date because trust me there are some absolute gems out there and by your own self confessed rules you just might be missing out on them. Men as they get older do lose their hair and have love handles yet if you met them in person you might find them charming.

So lets start with the rules and although I said to lower the expectations don't start dating someone that does nothing for you. I once started chatting to someone through a dating site, then through emails, then Facebook then through text before eventually meeting up with them lovely man still did nothing for me in the looks department. We went out on various trips to London, to see shows, cinema, meals out and even had him over when I had a party as my plus one but after 2 years of our friendship I had to ask myself what is going on here is a great bloke, adores me and because he looks (a bit like chipmunk, friends of mine will know who I mean) I couldn't image kissing him let alone......... But one night I decided to leave our friendship behind and take it to the next level, we ordered pizza and before the pizza had arrived I was drunk. Ladies this is a severe warning if you feel you HAVE to be drunk to sleep with a man they are NOT the man for you, you need to feel those little bubbles inside of you. So after that night and YES I did not remember it but I did remember waking up and that morning and rushing into the car and not going back. So that was also the end of our friendship. But can you truly have a male/female friendship when one of you like the other???

So lets set some rules, these were mine choose your own and then let them stretch when needs be apparently in a mans article they have stated that women are hypocrites over looks this was the message to DR LOVE!!

Hi Doc,

I subscribed to one of those Internet dating services and posted my photo, along with a fairly comprehensive personality profile of myself. After getting no real action for some time, I decided to run a test. Yes, Doc, I did the morally reprehensible thing and substituted a photo of a much better-looking man for my own. 

The results were alarming. A number of women immediately responded with some of the real "lookers" proclaiming their love, even after the exchange of only a few lines of text. Never in my regular life as a decent, honest, and hardworking man had I ever received such attention. It shook me to the core of my being like nothing else.

Such love was freely offered to the better-looking man. Funny that he had the same personality as me. I guess that doesn't matter though. Anyway, I'd be very interested in any thoughts you might have about all this, Doc.

Kenneth -- who thinks it's all pretty unfair

and the reply .....well the reply was quite long winded and started with Howdy Kenneth (hmm) and started to tell the story of Bill who used to attend an LA church for his religion and also to meet women he had looks 7/10 and personality 10/10 but then he made the mistake of taking Lance along with him one day Lance being a 10/10 for looks being a Klein modle you'd expect no less and ............................One day, not too long ago, Bill brought his friend Lance to church with him. Lance, who had never been there before, is about 6'2" with long, thick hair down to his shoulders. He looks like a Viking king who now earns his living doing Calvin Klein underwear advertisements.

After the service that day, Bill asked Lance if he enjoyed his experience there. Lance said to Bill, "Yeah, the minister is great and I loved the music. But what's with the women here? They're so aggressive! I've been hit on three times since I got here. One girl wouldn't let me go until I wrote down her phone number!"

Yes, Lance was complaining. Moments later, one of the real beauties of the congregation who had never even smiled at Bill once since he'd been going there, walked right up to Lance and said, "Hi! Are you new here?" As you might imagine, Bill's mouth dropped open in disbelief. So, Kenneth, both you and Bill had similar experiences, and both of you had similar responses to it: utter shock. Why? Because the behavior of these women was completely contrary to the values that the sisterhood of womenfolk espouses.

When asked about what qualities are most important in a potential mate, most women will tell you that a sense of humor and intelligence are at the top of the list. And according to the majority of women, it's men who care most about how a woman looks and least about her personality.
But as every good student of "The System" knows; in order to get to the truth, we look at people's actions primarily, rather than their words. And in this case, here's the obvious conclusion that we must arrive at: Women are motivated by looks just as much as men are, regardless of what they say.

They overlook personality in favor of physical appearance, exactly as men do. Women's shaming of men for being looks-obsessed is a bunch of hypocritical hogwash.

In fact the latest Diet Coke advertisement has come under fire for just that seeing men as a lump of meat hmmmm isn't that the way men have always wanted women on screen to be sexy???  So me being me now I need to look up the System what can it be???? OK can't check it out unless I want to spend $99 but if any of you men want to check it out feel free apparently it'll guarantee women chasing after you!!!!

Ok back to the looks.

We are on this blog going to be honest and I have an issue with men that have discoloured or wonky teeth but wouldn't go so far as to not date someone for that reason as that's fixable. I actually like a man to have not a lot of hair after spending a dating experience holding back an exes hair so that he can through up in the loo, not enjoyable but he did have beautiful hair put mine to shame another reason why i'm no longer with him :)
But for me its making me laugh, making me feel comfortable with who I am and who makes me feel like a princess i'm not interested in this women's lib stuff when it comes to dating treat her like a lady and she will treat you like a god!!

So fat, thin, cuddly (code for overweight) super skinny, blue, brown, green eyes, long hair short hair, straight, curly, black, white, mixed, asian  (but not the people in the cartoon because they just look scary) whatever your type set up some circles of your type and then add something into the mix that you wouldn't normally have done just in case that gem is there. 

Because lets face it we all get older, my hubby does not look how he did when we were first together and I certainly don't look like I did but it doesn't stop us loving each other so ladies look out side the box and enjoy the process of dating.

TTFN!!!